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We’re in the Same Place

“I try to practice what I preach; I’m not always that good at it, but I really do try. The other night, I was getting hard-hearted, closed-minded, and fundamentalist about somebody else, and I remembered this expression that you can never hate somebody if you stand in their shoes. I was angry at him because he was holding such a rigid view. In that instant I was able to put myself in his shoes and I realized, “I’m just as riled up, and self-righteous and closed-minded about this as he is. We’re in exactly the same place!” And I saw that the more I held on to my view, the more polarized we would become, and the more we’d be just mirror images of one another—two people with closed minds and hard hearts who both think they’re right, screaming at each other. It changed for me when I saw it from his side, and I was able to see my own aggression and ridiculousness.”

 Pema Chodron

(From Pema’s book Practicing Peace in Times of War)
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Life in the Present


“Live in the present scene of the epic movie of your life. Make it your true home. Don’t worry about the rest of the movie, it will take care of itself, when you take care of it, in the only place you make intimate contact – here and now, the present scene. Don’t try to fix or figure out or fulfil future scenes – it will always be this present scene. Herein lies your true contentment.”

by Jeff Foster (

Simple Stress Relief

One of our greatest tools is the breath. We don’t leave home without it!

No matter where we are going or where we’ve been we can always rely on our breath to help us when we stumble into a pot hole on our journey.

One simple little trick that I like to do, is to pause, and in that split second of stopping the whirl wind of thoughts, emotion and energy that can be part of our every day world, we have opportunity to breathe. In that pause, you can take a nice deep breath in and then release it and if you need to, go ahead take 3!! Even better is to let out the breath with sound such as “ahhhhhhh”, or what ever might feel appropriate for you at the time.

Depending on where we are on our journey, stopping to take 3 deep breaths and exhale loudly may not be possible so another technique that I use often is to slow down the breathe. In other words you can be standing in an elevator, or in the middle of a meeting in the board room and use this technique to help lower stress levels. It is as easy as lengthening the amount of time that you breathe in and out. If you pay attention to a typical breath they tend to be short and sweet depending of course on what we are doing and keeping in mind that we are all of course very different. By slowing down the amount of air that comes into our body and slowing down the amount that leaves our body we can reduce stress levels and feel a level of calm enter our being.

It is particularly helpful to lengthen the exhalation so if it helps you to focus on one element only, focus on making the exhalation slightly longer every time you breathe out, you will be amazed at how much better you will feel after just a few minutes.

You may also notice at the end of the exhalation, there is a little pause, or a little bit of peace, just before the next breathe comes in. It is ever so slight, but it can be found there, I invite you to see what can be found there in that ever so small moment in time.

My Best Friend

I was sitting in the back of the car looking out at the fall afternoon in Prince George as we drove. I wanted to open the door and run. My Mom, my best friend, was dying of cancer. She was in the last hours of her life at the hospice in Prince George,  and we had just come from seeing her.

I am not sure if I wanted to run away or run to something, no matter though, I started running. Continue reading My Best Friend